The Most Underrated Trait One Can Have

I have spent 7 years away from my home. It's been just 3 years since I am with my family. During this time with my family, I have learned something very important.

Three years ago, when I came back home, the initial bonding and chemistry with my father were awesome. But, as I had been away from him for a long time I had no idea of his habits, behaviour and how he reacts to particular situations.

So, as the days passed, slowly I started to dislike my father as the differences grew between us. There were raised arguments when our opinions clashed. Anger came into the picture. There used to be days I would avoid talking to him.

Tension was growing. I was clueless.

One fine day, when I was working in the field, I was introspecting about the same. That was the time I realised my biggest mistake.

I realised that instead of getting angry at his mistakes and particular behaviour, I was getting mad at him.

From the next day, I changed the way I looked at not just him but everyone around me. I stopped hating my loved ones for their unexpected behaviour. Instead, I started pointing out what I didn't like about them.

Everything fell into its place. And, I am always happy these days.

What is the single most underrated trait a person can have?

The ability to not hate a person for his unexpected behaviour or mistakes.

You had a fight over something with your sister yesterday. Fine. But, don't hate your sister. Hate that fight.

You had a heated argument with your partner three days ago. You are still upset and don't talk to each other. Not at all fine. Stop hating your partner for that fight. Hate that argument.

Your loved ones are also human beings just like you are. They too get tensed, angry, sad and frustrated. Don't hate them for what they do. Hate their deeds. Point out that specific problem and talk about it and solve it.

Lack of communication leads to the destruction of the relationship. Don't let your relationship die just because you hated a particular behaviour of your loved one.

Hate their mistakes, not them.